5 Steps To Make Your Bed A Sanctuary

5 Steps To Make Your Bed A Sanctuary

Doesn’t staying in bed sound perfect for January? The holidays are over. The days are still short and dark, and summer is months away.  My bed calls to me. And isn’t the New Year the time for change and clean slates? So how can we make change possible in 2017? Change starts with a good night’s sleep. Sleep, among other things, happens in bed. Why not take the time to make your bed a place you want to spend time in?


Here are my five steps to making your bed a sanctuary in the New Year.


  1. Make your bed. Period.

It’s really that easy: Make your bed. I’m not talking about just pulling the sheets up, either. I’m talking about yanking the sheets tight and taut. The only thing more satisfying than walking through the bedroom mid-day and seeing a beautiful mountain of pillows and colors is climbing under the sheets at the end of the day. One of the great joys of life is to look at beautiful things. Why not make your bed one more beautiful part of your day?

 CJ Perle

  1. Don’t be afraid to live in your bed.

I don’t mean actually living in your bed. I mean, don’t be afraid to spend time cuddling up under the covers, candles lit, sipping wine and late-night snacking. We do a lot more than just sleep in our beds. You may seek your bed in times of sorrow, as well as ecstasy; in times of excitement, as well as exhaustion. Make your bed a place of refuge, of sanctuary, for the days when there’s nowhere else you’d rather be.


  1. Lavender is the answer for everything.

To me, a sanctuary is a place of meditation and relaxation, and a lavender essential oil is perfect for setting the mood. Lavender is also proven to help promote a healthier sleep and reduce anxiety. So put on your fuzzy CJ bathrobe, dab some lavender oil on the nape of your neck and wrists, and take a well-deserved nap.


  1. Don’t bring your work to bed.

Your bed is a place of rest, relaxation, and reclining. No work allowed. In fact, don’t bring work into the bedroom at all. By leaving your work at the bedroom door, you can trigger your mind to associate your bedroom, specifically your bed, with the sort of relaxation you need—a stress-free (or at least as close as you can get to stress-free) zone. I’m not saying the only thing your bed is good for is sleeping, either. There are lots of fun things to do in bed; work just shouldn’t be one of them.


  1. Buy comfy linens that you want to snuggle up in.

The only way to make your bed a true sanctuary, a place to escape from the hectic parts of your life, is to make it a place you want to spend time in. Optimistically speaking, we should be spending eight hours a night in our beds. That’s 56 hours a week. That’s 2,912 hours a year. Why would you waste all those hours with uncomfortable sheets?


Remember, change starts with a good night’s sleep. Just ask yourself, what can I do to make sure I get a good night’s sleep every single night? Finding little ways to make bedtime more relaxing will always be a worthy investment of your time.


And my final, admittedly shameless suggestion, “sleeping on my sheets helps too”.





I have been told there is an art to gift giving, but my belief is I have perfected the art of gift receiving and that is much more fun to write about. It all started when I was old enough to wrap a present. It was an easy talent to develop as my mother wrapped our every present up through our teenage years with the last roll of white and silver striped paper from my grandparent’s general store.

Every year, on the week before Hanukkah, we would find 8 presents waiting for us by the Menorah. Each night we were able to open only one. I was always anxious picking the first gift because “what if I didn’t get the one thing I asked for?” or more appropriately, begged for. And if I didn’t choose it on the first night I would have to wait another whole day and hope all over again. Age 10 is when I first discovered the art of gift receiving.

I couldn’t wait. I just had to have this watch with a blue strap that came with a porcelain Cinderella doll. If I’m being honest, I knew my best friend was getting one and really Mom and Dad, all I keep thinking was “please let me be cool too.” One day I took the present into the bathroom and carefully unwrapped it. There it was, my beautiful new watch! So excited and realizing I didn’t do such a good job unwrapping it, I went and got a new piece of wrapping paper, rewrapped the gift and put it back in place. Whew! No one noticed so every day I would take another present and repeat the process. When I was all done I lined them up in the order I knew I wanted to open them, one each night.

The next year I wanted hand puppets, marionettes and a puppet stage. Of course I did. My best friend had already picked hers out and she always got what she asked for. One day I came home from school to find the menorah set up with all our presents. When no one was paying attention, I took the first one and started my routine. Yes! It was a hand puppet. I was so happy but nothing seemed big enough to be the stage. Every night I opened another puppet that I’d previously unwrapped and rewrapped pretending to be excited but where was the stage? It’s finally, the last night of Hanukkah. Fighting back the tears (I’m only 11), I unwrap my last puppet. Dutifully I thank my parents and start to play. A few minutes later, my Dad walks into the room carrying a giant cardboard puppet stage. Did they know what I had been doing or was the stage just too big to wrap? I assumed the latter.

Many years later and all grown up, I confessed my art of gift receiving to my family. My Mom said they never knew and the puppet stage was just too big to wrap. Everyone laughed and I assumed that was the end of family gift surprises. Several years after that I decided I wanted a set of three bracelets which I was fairly certain my parents would give me one at a time for my birthday. The first year I mentioned it, piece of cake. I unwrapped the gift, opened the box and there it was. A few years later, bracelet number two, thank you Mom and Dad, you’re the best! A few birthdays later, same size box. I was getting the last bracelet of my dreams. I unwrapped the gift, opened the box and there was the third bracelet only in a better and unexpected version. I looked at my Mom with tears running down my cheeks and she just smiled and said, “got ya”. I learned a long time ago never to put your present out before it was time for you to open it. 

I hope each and every one of you receives whatever it is you wish for most this holiday season and admittedly, I hope I do too, even if I have to wait to open it! For those of you that haven't yet mastered the art of giving and are waiting last minute to do your shopping, here are some fun ideas from one of my favorite store, @MartinPatrick3! These are just a few of my favorite things! Happy Shopping!

  1. Colette Jaffe Terry Robe:
  2. Nima Oberoi Lunares Large Gold Jackrabbit:
  3. Tokyobay Gable Watch:
  4. Colette Jaffe Single Line Linen Collection:
  5. IMAX Worldwide HomeTyler Large Borosilicate Glass Water Bottle:
  6. Newgate Clocks Medium London Alarm:
  7. Quench Products The Bar10er in Stainless Steel:
  8. Woodchuck USA Custom Flask:



Color: The Inspiration behind the Colette Jaffe bed Linen Collection

Color: The Inspiration behind the Colette Jaffe bed Linen Collection

Colors, like features, follow the changes of the emotions.

– Pablo Picasso


A customer recently asked me what inspired me to create the Colette Jaffe brand.  A seemingly easy question until I had to answer. It was like the chicken or the egg. Was I inspired as an entrepreneur doing what I know or did I see something missing in the linen world that I wanted to give my voice to? Undoubtedly, there was an entrepreneur hiding inside me. So what did I think was missing and how was I going to fix it?


In general, people purchase bed linens as a need more than a desire. How do I know this? Linen departments are always in the back of the store or on the top floors. Compare how many times you have stopped in the shoe department caught by the latest styles as opposed to how often you browse the linen department. If necessary, you will find the linen department, but that new pair of shoes is calling your name. (Thank you Martin Patrick 3 for having the vision to put my brand in the front of the store.)


For over 20 years I have observed a similar behavior with a customer purchasing new sheets. They look for sheets that match or parallel the color of their walls and floors. They choose a design that coordinates with the motif in the bedroom. And finally, if the thread count is high enough and the price is right, they purchase.


How did this behavior inspire me and influence the Colette Jaffe brand? 


We experience so much of life in our beds. We laugh, we cry, we dream, we cuddle with our spouses, children and pets, and the rest I will leave to your imagination. For a place that evokes so many emotions, why is there so little emotion when we buy sheets? The Colette Jaffe brand was created to inspire emotion through the use of color.


Color is everywhere and everything. You wake to a sunny, clear blue day and want to jump out of bed. You rise to a cloudy, grey sky and want to go back to sleep.  I am fairly certain the day you bought a new car your color choice had nothing to do with matching the color and motif of your garage.


Color carries important meaning and can have an impact on people’s mood, cognition and behavior. Color is a universal language and research proves the blind can sense color energies through their fingertips. Color is instinctual and yet, societal constructs of color are constantly evolving.


Given these facts, why am I so inspired by color?

  • It’s one of the first things we learn after our ABC’s.
  • When we are young, someone asks us what is our favorite color and if we could remember that moment, I believe that is our favorite color for the rest of our life.
  • It is socially acceptable to have a favorite color and rarely does someone tell you it’s a wrong choice.
  • We never get tired of our favorite color.
  • We choose our favorite color in all things – a shirt, a pen, a bicycle, a chair.
  • Bed linens in your favorite color will match any décor simply because we feel good wrapped up in them. “FEEL” as in emotion.


I often wonder who was the person that decided we should sleep on white and beige sheets. Was it the same person who first uttered the words “thread count”?


“I love color. It connects me with people. It makes me happy. I am color and color is me.”